Single parent & their sad demise
73% of mothers stay with their single parented children where only 27% fathers stay with their single parented children.
Can we ever thought that why children more staying with their alone mothers? Is it the like our past tradition that after death a man can get easily married & women can not. It may be because somewhere & somehow women are still not getting that much freedom what actually they need. If a man can get married after her wife’s death then why woman can not? This is the senario of our society on which we all have to think to give them(women) freedom, so that they can also walk soldier to soldier with men.
37% of single parented children lost their one of parent due to accdental reasons whereas 63% of single parented children lost their one of parent due to natural death.
More % of deaths were due the natural deaths. May be this was the reason behind that women are still satying alone & they love their child very very much.
Relationship & understanding of behavior of their single parent.
67% of children have friendly relation with their single parent, 27% children have normal relation with their single parent & 6% children are saying that they have irritated relationship with their single parent.
In that 67 % those who have friendly realtion with their parent, one girl commented “My mother is very friendly & we share good & healthy realtionship”. One boy commented “Very franky, frindly type of relationship I have with my mother ” whereas other girl comented “I have well & understanding relationship with my mom’.
In that 6% those who have irritated relationship with their single parent. One boy commented “He always scolds me, sometimes even though when I didn’t make mistake”. One girl commented “I don’t have good relationship with my father, because he never understand me”.
According to us ralationship & understanding plays a very important role in human life. These things are essential to maintain good & healthy realationship. But sometimes hen parents scolds us for our right path we misunderstood them & we started feeling that our parent don’t love us. When we are talking about the realtionship then behavior is also imortant to relationship.
67% children understand their single parents behavior as normal, 27% children understand their single parent’s behaviour as good & 6% consider their parent’s behavior as bad.
One boy commented “She is ossom, philospher & guide . the only person that can understood me much better”. One boy commented “Aajtak main apne dad ko nahi samajh payi kyonki wo humesha gussa hi karte rahte hai pata nahi kyun”.
We got that the number of normal behavior is equal to the number of children those who have good relation with their parents. Today’s youth may not understand their single parent’s behvior but they should understand
Apart from relationship & behavior 90% children feels that they would have been better life if they had both the parent. Only 10% children feels that there will not be any different if they had both the parent means their life is normal after the sad demise of their parent.
One commented “yes then I will get more time to study”. Other commented “yes because both the parents are equally important in our life”.
As every coin has two sides. One side children says that they have irritated relationship & not so good behavior with their parent & on other side they feel that their life would have been better if they had both the parent. This is the matter of love & care in our relationship thats what children thinks about their single parent. Specially children like love & care about their single parent.
83% children says that no one can replace their single parent whereas 17% children says that there are people who can replace their single parent.
One girl commented “No, because nobody can become our parents. Parents understand their children & their needs needs. They also avoid their mistakes but for me no one can replace atleast my single parent”. One boy is commented “No, because my mother has all the capacity to manage me & my sister & we three are happy in our life o there is no need of 4th person in my family”.
According to us children don’t want any other person as there second parent because they are very much emotionally attached with their lost parent so we can say this is the dillema of child & parent.
Decisions & need related problem of Single parented Child
only 27% single parented children takes their own important decision, just 23% single parent takes decision for their children, 36% decision of single parented child takes more than one person, 7% decision taken by brothers & sisters respectively.
In these decisions 90% decisions children takes their own decision yhose who live with their mother & very less takes their own decision those who live with their father. Through this we can analise that children have more restrictions on theirselves when they live with their father & childrens have less or we can say negligible restrictions on theirselves when they stay with their mother.
21% decisions related to the academics childrens takes their own, 45% of decisions takes their single parent, 10% decisions takes their brother, just 3% decisions takes their relatives, 7% decisions are taken by their friends & 14% decisions takes more than one person.
Decisions related to career or academics single parented child wants to take their own decision & then on second number single parent comes in the matter of taking decision of their children. Which is very impotant aspect that nowadays childrens are started getting more & more freedom of their own choice. Children don’t want anobdy to interfare in their matter.
40% children are saying that they did not argued with their single parent. 33% are saying that they argued for their parents care & need. 17% are saying that they argued on the topic of education & 10% are saying that they argued on the toic of their early marriage.
One commented “I argued for my pocket money & long night out”.
Generally children argued with their parents on the issue of pocket money & freedom. But in this question only boys have argued on the topic for pocket money & freedom. One girl argued on the issue of early mariage of her sisters.
CONCLUSION
The overall conclusion is that all the single parented are not able to understand their single parent & they consider that their parent is not behaving well with them. Everytime single parented takes their own decision in all the manners.
For us parents
Parents are the most beautiful & wonderful creation by the god which are very auspicious for their children. Parents are gifts from God. Parents, the important people in our life. They not only give birth but also take our care, protect us, Fulfills our needs & always try to keep us happy. Both mother & father plays vital role in bringing up their children.
Mother: she holds a baby in a uterus for nine months bearing so much pain. She feels the presence of a live within her talking breathy kicking sometimes making her feels like mother. A mother is a first person who the child indentified as his/her own. She protects her child from all the bad things. A mother is giver of birth, nourishment, love manners, happiness and a tension free childhood.
Father: He is second most important person. A father is the who work hard and earn just to see a smile in his child’s face. A Father gives everything to his child. We always seen men & women hard working & earning money and buying properties but the sake of whom? They earn For the sake of children. So that the children get good education, food, clothes and also fulfills their needs. Parents love is unconditional love. The love is priceless. They don’ expect anything from child. They only know to anything for their child.
